Monday, May 30, 2011

Because we can never get quite enough of those middle school bands...

...this month we had not one, but TWO concerts.  This brings the total to fifteen that we will get to enjoy over the course of the children's middle school career.

Nine down, six to go.  Not that I am counting.

There were two this spring because the jazz and rock bands got their own show, and it was actually kind of nice to hear them play an extended program instead of two or three pieces wedged into the big concert  


St. Patricia has done wonders with the fifth grade this year, by the way.  


Here is Thing Two with a sprained finger which in no way detracted from the quality of her playing.

I'm not sure if that's good or bad.






And here is Thing One, resplendent in his red t-shirt from the Great East Festival and matching carnation.  

The other boys merely pinned theirs to their shirts.  <yawn>  

Dare to be different.

Sunday, May 29, 2011

Shameless Plug: eHope

This one is a little hard to explain.

We New Englanders tend to play to that stereotype of prickly independence - we neither ask for help nor receive it graciously, and we keep our neighbors at arm's length, preferring as we do to live isolated and alone on craggy rocks surrounded by crashing breakers and blinding fog, subsisting only on that which we have scratched from the earth with our own bare hands, shivering but grimly self-satisfied.  It's a miracle we manage to reproduce.

I exaggerate only slightly for the purpose of illustration. 

Maine's population is both aging and shrinking faster than almost anywhere else in the country.  Those of us who are here and of working age are busy, and frankly, prickly independence or not, we simply don't have time interact with anyone outside our co-workers and immediate families.

So what happens when one of us gets cancer?  Or ALS?  When we need help and we don't have a culture of neighborliness or community to draw upon?  Of course friends and family say "let me know what I can do to help" - but we don't like to admit we need help, remember, so we say we're managing, thank you; we'll let you know if something comes up. 

Along comes Jeffrey Wood, a transplant from the midwest, where they do the neighbor and community thing really well, and he was struck by this mentality of ours in general and, in particular, how isolated people can become at the end of life in such a society.  In response, he founded an organization called eHope which builds and nurtures communities of care for people with serious - usually terminal - illnesses. 

Here's how it works:  close friends and family form a small, intimate circle of care.  The patient or her family post their needs to a private web site - meal preparation, housekeeping, companionship, transportation home repair, pet care, whatever needs to be done - and the members of the circle fill those needs and use that forum to communicate amongst themselves.  Jeffrey's model allows the family and patient precious time free from the logistical burden of coordinating care. 

It's pretty slick. 

I know firsthand, because we established a circle for my mother (she resisted, naturally).  It was one of the most powerful experiences of my life.  Warm fuzzies aside, if I have a shred of sanity left after the last year and a half, it's because of Jeffrey and eHope.

I can't even begin to communicate Jeffrey's mission and vision as effectively as he does; if even half of us cared as deeply for neighbors and community as he does, how much better off would we all be? 

Selah. 

Check out the web site:  www.ehope.nu.  If it strikes a chord, please make a donation. 

Saturday, May 21, 2011

Recently

The last months have been pretty intense and the casualties have included baking, my skin care regimen and this blog.  I've been unable to crank out as many posts or take as many pictures as I would have liked... but here for the record is the Reader's Digest condensed version of Spring 2011:


One dance recital

Two birthdays and one anniversary


Lacrosse season



Two band concerts and one chorus concert

Orioles, hummingbirds, rose-breasted grosbeaks and black flies have returned


The Heir borrowing the camera


One wedding.  My mother had been looking forward to it since last fall; I went to her house early and we watched it together.  It was the last time she was alert and responsive


Playdates (with guns)


A fencing tournament

A funeral.  I miss you, Mom.  You got WiFi up there so you can keep up with us?

Friday, May 20, 2011

Springtime yard cleanup

I recently shared how our backyard becomes a veritable minefield over the course of a winter. 

You whose households include two overgrown dogs with healthy appetites and a marked disinclination to venture any further than necessary from the house when nature calls and there are two or three feet of snow on the ground find yourselves, I'm sure, in a similar situation.

As soon as the snow melts but before the grass starts to grow - a window of approximately 45 minutes sometime in April - the wise pet owner embarks on some preliminary yard cleanup.

The wiser pet owner orders her children to do it.


Aren't they wonderful?


They hardly complained at all.


There's Thing One in mid-moan while his sister diligently shovels.


And here's an utterly disgusted Thing Two...


... very offended by the state of her shoes.


New family tradition:  the apres-poop-walk shoe care clinic...?